Ok so i guess we have another holiday/week/celebration of breastfeeding. I wanted to give the middle woman's side of the story.
Well i guess i should start with the birth and hospital experience. I had a fairly normal experience i had a great OB and the nurses were very nice. They did have lactation nurses there to help. I had herd horror stories(as with all things medical related) but these were really nice and understanding they were very informative and eager to help with any problems or questions i had. For me it was stressful it felt like i had nothing i have boobs but where was the milk? I would wake at the hospital when they wanted me to at night and i would try as much as i could and have them help me while i was there, different technics and all.
Well we get home(around the holidays) and i had people asking me if i am breastfeeding(like it was any of there business,but thats a whole other blog). I had people overstepping there boundaries a lot of people putting there nose where it didn't belong. I felt judged about what was going on, even though no fault of my own. Any who it was very stressful i felt like i had no milk and she wasn't getting enough food from me. I tried all kinds or tricks positions and even called lactation specialist.
After a weak or so of trying to breastfeed. I tried the pumping/formula technique. I got to where i would pump for an HOUR and not even get an ounce so my feelings were right she wasn't getting anything and thats why she was upset and hungry when i was breastfeeding alone. So eventually she was just on formula.
I felt like a failure as a mom she wasn't even a month old and i was failing at something that was suppost to be natural. Luckily i had a friend with a lil one about 6 months before me and she told me i was doing great and things happen and you just have to do whats right for your child in whatever situation you have. I would have loved to been able to use my own milk either through me or a bottle its great for your baby and HELLO its free!
Point being is that you don't know someones story all you see is a bottle and think lazy. So before you judge and think you high and might because you breastfeed your child. Think again, just like anything you don't know there situation and its really none of your business. I tried and gave it my best shot and didn't really have a choice, what was i suppose to do let my child starve or give her formula.
We as mothers need to support one another instead of being competitive and thinking that your better than somebody else, cause your not!
